Have you ever asked yourself: What is relationship, actually? What is happening between two people in relationship?
Relationship is something like this:
“I want your self-experience (what you think and feel inside yourself, and only known to you inside yourself unless you express it) to feel positive, happy, confident, calm, peaceful, proud of, excited for, desiring of, and committed to, what we have created together with our lives and belongs only to us on the outside.”
“I want us to share in our tasks of life, making shared decisions about the shared aspects of that life. And you will make individual decisions about your individual life with our shared life as a higher priority than your individual life; and whatever exceptions you make to that, we decide together.”
“And I want to feel the same. And I want you to want to feel the same. And I want you to want the same for me.”
“And when we have individual needs, we will turn to each other to decide on fulfilling them.”
“And when there are challenges, I want us to hold on to our commitment to a shared life and have mutual confidence that we can reestablish it.”
Relationships make life worth living.
